Dear Abby: My sister's fiancé, “Logan,” always seemed very flirtatious with me. I told her that she should control her future husband. Even after they got married, the same gestures and innuendos continued, and I reminded my sister about it. Logan did and said inappropriate things right in front of her. Once he even commented, “Oh my god, you married the wrong sister!”
The night of my father's funeral banquet, everyone was drunk. (I don't drink.) Twice, in front of his wife and our sister-in-law, Logan grabbed me tightly by my hips. I told him to stop. He said, “Well, you're in a lot of trouble.”
Later, when I was in the kitchen, in front of my uncle and brother, Logan pulled me into his chest. I pulled myself away and he followed me. I told him to stay away. Tensions were already high between my sister and me. After dinner, when everyone was leaving, Logan came over and tapped on my windshield, pointed at me and said, “You, you, you.”
That evening, I sent her a message that said, “Maybe you chose the wrong sister.” Of course, she showed it to my sister. Now there's a huge rift in the family, and I'm the “bad guy.” And although this game happened in front of everyone, no one saw anything during dad's funeral because everyone was drunk. Someday, the truth will reveal itself. For now, I must admit my guilt. Any advice, Abby? — Punished in Pennsylvania
Dear Punished: Your mistake was that you didn't yell “NO!” the first time Logan attacked you. Avoid any family gatherings that involve drinking. Stay away from Logan and your sister as much as possible. Enroll in a self-defense class so you can defend yourself if someone lays a hand on you. And finally, if Logan catches you alone, tell him that if it happens again you will report him to the police for attacking him – because he has been doing the same thing to you.
Dear Abby: My husband died a year and a half ago at the age of 42. He was a gifted singer. Five months before his death, when he was still healthy enough to sing, two young women came to our home with a keyboard and microphone and recorded him singing worship songs. This was done so that his grandchildren, who were very young at the time of his death, could hear them in the future. These young women were considered close friends of the family for many years.
They have now severed all ties with me and will not respond to any of my requests for recordings. I am saddened beyond words as we loved them like family. One of them recently released an album of worship songs. He tried for years to convince my husband to work on it with him. What should I do? — singing a sad song
Favorite song: You should now consult a lawyer and tell them what happened. At the very least, you should get the recording and if they have benefited financially from it, a share of the money as well.
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