Dear Abby: I live in an apartment building. I am quiet and keep to myself. There is a doorman here who is very curious. When I pick up my parcel, she asks, “So, what is in the parcel?” as if I am doing something nefarious. She gossips a lot and lies too.
At the front desk, as well as in front of management, she accused me of doing things that never happened – sexual impropriety, drug and tobacco use, etc. I began receiving strange, unsigned text messages with the same accusations. I can usually identify who contacts me. My contact information was available at the office.
This woman recently broke into my apartment using a master key. Luckily, I was home at the time. She was fired from her job, but she came back last weekend. Our manager said she is here “temporarily” until he finds a replacement. There are multiple copies of these keys out there, and I no longer feel safe in my home. What would you do if you were in my place? — Invasion of Georgia
Dear Invader: Document all incidents that occurred. If they continue, write down the time and date they occurred. This will prove beneficial if you have to escalate the matter. It is disappointing that the manager rehired an employee who was fired due to staffing shortages. (This shouldn't have happened, and there are better ways to meet staffing needs.)
Since your manager is not responding, contact the property owner or management company and report what is happening. If this doesn't work, report the matter to the police. Your safety and well-being should come first.
If you can afford to hire an attorney, consult one for advice on legal options to protect yourself from harassment, hostility, or intimidation. If the situation does not improve, consider finding a new place to live.
Dear Abby: I am currently married, but I am seeking a divorce. I have met a woman I love. She knows my marital status and feels the same way about me.
I promised her my marriage would end within eight months, but she thinks my wife should move in after my divorce, even if I move out and rent out my share of the house. (My future ex-husband and I currently live on opposite sides of the house.) Do you agree? — Changes in New York
The favourite changes are: Whether I agree or not is irrelevant. The person answering this question is the lawyer who will represent you in the divorce. If you are truly planning to leave the marriage, make an appointment now to discuss it.
P.S. And, please, give yourself time instead of rushing into marriage again once your divorce is final.
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