Dear Abby: Please tell me a clever way to explain to my son and daughter-in-law that their “born again” religious pressure makes me uncomfortable, and I am not interested in changing my views in any way? , content in the past
Favorite Ingredients: Thank your beloved son and daughter-in-law for their concern and let them know that you are comfortable with their spirituality it is as it isThen ask them to please not bring it up again because, when they do, it makes you uncomfortable.
Dear Abby: I've been talking to a guy for a little over a year. Things are great between us, but it seems like he doesn't want to make any commitments. Not that I think he is using me for sex, because he shows me to his friends, we go out together and he texts or calls daily.
She is kind and I don't have a single bad thing to say about her. But, when I move forward he runs in the opposite direction. He clings and I can barely get a word out of him. How can things be so great, yet he's still so unsure about making me his official girlfriend?
We treat each other like important people without titles. We have taken many vacations together and he trusts me to watch over his house when he is out of town. I feel confused, and as much as I hate to admit it, I'm hurt. I know he cares about me, but when is it time for me to move on? – committed in missouri
Dear Commit: Your question is valid. You've been seeing someone for a little over a year who has made it clear that he wants to keep his options open. Because he refuses to discuss the issue, you need to decide how much more time is practical to invest in a relationship that may go nowhere. After that, set a deadline and be ready to move forward.
It seems like you want different things. I can't make such a personal decision for you; This is something you have to decide yourself.
Dear Abby: You have published letters from readers asking what to do with old love letters (either before death or when they are found after death). Let me share my story.
One evening, shortly after our mother passed away, my siblings and I were going through some of her stuff and we found correspondence between her and our stepfather, written before their marriage. . My sister and I started putting them in chronological order and taking turns reading them out loud. The ingredients were spicy (their behavior was somewhat scary!).
Our brother covered his ears, claiming that his mother would never behave like this! My sister and I, on the other hand, were laughing and happy to learn about these intimate and romantic details from the early days of their relationship. My (adult) daughter's eyes bulged, but I reminded her that Grandma was once her age, and so was I!
My advice is to cherish these precious memories and preserve them for your children and grandchildren. As for us, we have scanned the letters into our family's digital archive so that they will be available for future generations. – just wanted to share
Dear Bus: Thanks for the information. Not all people are comfortable thinking about their parents as sexual beings. If your mother was as “sad” as the letters revealed, I hope you would have labeled them “X-rated” so they wouldn't shock more members of your family.
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