Experts say that if your sex life Summer is over, try to clean your bedroom.
“Studies show that Clutter kills libidoDirty and cluttered spaces can cause stress, which is not good for our sex lives,” explained sex educator Portia Brown. Guardian,
“You may find yourself thinking, ‘Why didn’t I remove that fabric?’ Instead of focusing on pleasure,” she said.
Men’s sex coach Cam Fraser told the newspaper that the bedroom should be “like a little sanctuary”, free of any distractions, clutter or stress.
This way, you and your partner can feel relaxed and ready to be intimate.
How does one create one’s own sexual sanctuary? As Fraser says, take five minutes to settle in before you start having sex.
“If you have dirty clothes on your bed or need to wash them, at least put everything in one wardrobe, close the door and make the bed” – and don’t bring your long to-do list to bed.
Experts also told the outlet that there could be another surprising reason why your sex life is suffering — too much cuddling.
If a person is going to hug All Sometimes, but they don’t have counterparts, this can cause problems, he said.
The person not being hugged may start to feel upset. If your partner withdraws from physical affection, including sex, this may make you feel more isolated.
“They end up in this blissful phase where one person pulls back to try to increase the distance and the other one tries to decrease the distance,” Natasha Silverman, sex and relationship therapist for Relate, explained to the outlet.
“It’s a really unhealthy cycle for both people and it can be very emotionally damaging to the person who needs more connection.”
To keep your partner from getting angry, ask them, “Is this okay? Do you like it?” before you initiate the embrace.
If you notice that your desire to cuddle is causing tension, take a step back and let your partner pursue you.
Silverman said: “The way we initiate affection is often replicated in the way we initiate sex. So if you can do this when it comes to cuddling, you can break this cycle when it comes to sex too.
