High-end escort Katija Cortez reckons Australian men are getting worse at sex.
The 28-year-old, who lives in Sydney, said being a sex worker means she’s been able to collect “data” on Australian men, and her findings aren’t very impressive.
She has had to accept most men are bad at sex, yes, even the married ones. Not even Gen Z men are impressing her.
“There are so many husbands, boyfriends, and men, young and old, who have absolutely not a single idea how to please a woman. How are their wives, girlfriends and women in general putting up with this?” she said.
Ms. Cortez says Australian men aren’t consuming porn properly or seeking help when required leading to lackluster performances in the bedroom.
“Porn can be an amazing educational tool. It can give some guidance on the general flow of a session. You don’t need to compare your size or stamina to that of a porn star, but if you can’t even last two seconds and only do missionary, and can’t even execute that properly then we have a problem,” she said.
“There are also lots of self-help guides and videos that teach better bedroom etiquette and technique specifically for males.”
According to her, a big part of the reason Aussie men fall short in the bedroom is that they don’t ask the right questions.
“Many men still don’t know where the clit is,” she told news.com.au.
“Lots of men do not ask their sexual partners what they like. The best encounters are ones where guys ask me what I also like. It doesn’t have to be robotic. It can be in a sexy way.”
Ms. Cortez said she finds men will initiate things sexually without “asking” their partners if it is even something they like.
“All participants in a session with people they’ve not slept with before should be asking their partner what they like, checking in to see if something feels okay. I’ve had many clients look at me weird when I ask them if they like something,” she explained.
“Lots of men will assume that all women like the same things. This is where asking each individual partner what they like is so important.”
Through her research, she has found many men don’t even know how to “position” themselves correctly, and she is really sick of men almost “crushing” her during sex because they rest their whole body weight on hers.
The big trend she has noticed, though, is men who think women can orgasm on command.
“As if it’s something I can just snap my fingers and do on command,” she said.
“These men usually tend to always be the guys who are the worst in bed. Or the reverse, when a man will finish in two seconds and then ask me if I also came. We can’t control it.”
Ms. Cortez said that Aussie men need to start realising that “sex is a two-way street” and start asking women what they like in bed.
