Maybe putting up walls could be a good thing for the relationship.
Dating apps are a thing of the last decadeThis is what New York singles of all ages say, who line up on weekends to post their photos on a wall in Brooklyn's McCarren Park in the hopes of finding their next partner.
“It’s a really exciting way to meet people,” Greenpoint resident Griffin McLaughlin, 24, told the Post.
Every Saturday and Sunday from 12pm to 8pm a brick wall in front of the park's tennis courts transforms into New York City's busiest pick-up spot, where romantic suitors log off and try their luck in public.
To participate, you scan a QR code on the site and pay a suggested donation of $25 to $60 — higher prices may also include a tarot card reading. For your money, you'll get two Polaroid photos taken by local photographer Bob Greco, also known as “Picture Man Bob.”
One photo you take home, another you stick on the wall, along with a colored index card with some personal details – name, age, gender, what you're looking for and words that describe you.
So far more than 600 people between the ages of 19 and 55 have attempted to work on this wall.
Those brave enough to take part can see their peers and tell the two organisers, Vaishnavi Sessetti, 23, and Cyrus Belsoi, 25, who they like, and who they would like to give their photograph and details to.
The contestants' photos are changed every five weeks, and Wall-Lamanai is also invited to a private mixer.
“It lets everyone know that everyone else is single too and that you're not alone.” Daniel Miller, 25, of Westchester County, told The Post. “It’s new and different and people just do it because it’s fun. Even if it doesn’t, it’s still an experience.”
As Eight in ten Americans report being “burned out” from swiping on dating appsWall organizers have founded a nonswiping dating app called Pickup Dating — but they hardly advertise it on the wall. They just want to help foster human connections.
That's exactly what Alyssa Peck wants.
“These days it seems like people on apps aren’t really looking for a real connection,” the 21-year-old told The Post — a sentiment echoed by many. “I’m looking for someone who’s real.”
And some romantic people are hoping for a love story.
“I like meeting people online, there's nothing special about it,” McLaughlin said. “But if you were walking in a park, see someone really exciting, fall in love, it would be like a movie. So I stopped at the wall and thought, 'I'd like to date people who are cool enough to put their picture up there.'”
He was walking in the park when the crowd gathered around the wall pulled him in – and he wasn't alone.
Throughout the day, the wall attracts just about anyone who wanders into the iconic spot in the Williamsburg/Greenpoint border area, whether they are married couples reminiscing about their dating days or single people considering committing themselves to it.
“This is how you know dating in New York is hard,” Becky, a 25-year-old local single, told The Post.
“I want there to be more social people here. I want it to be like it was in the old times, where you would meet someone and date them in a normal way.”
But for some people, the wall has become that place.
Ben Abrahamson walks around a wall and asks two women out on a date.
“It’s just chaos on these apps,” the 34-year-old told The Post. That’s why he put his picture on the wall.
While he was filling out his info card and waiting for his stuff to be taped, he made a silly joke to the woman sitting next to him, which he couldn't even remember. The two stood and talked and eventually decided to go to a nearby bar and have a drink.
The next week, when he stopped by to look at new photos, he approached another woman and asked her out – she was just visiting the city, so it didn't work out. He even left a few likes.
“I like that I don't have to swipe. That's the greatest thing, honestly,” Abrahamson said, adding that there's always a temptation on apps to think the next person might be a better match.
“There are so many options. Something like this helps. Limit the choices.”