A young Australian woman has revealed the unexpected and positive effect of being a single mum – she instantly becomes more attractive.
Rachel Wittman, 26, is a real estate agent with a young son who has been single for 18 months.
After becoming a single mom, she shared what happened in her life and soon gained a fan following on TikTok.
“Does it get easier? No, but do you get warmer? Yes,” she said.
Witman's confession was also praised by other women who feel the same way after a breakup.
“This is a brilliant approach,” one praised.
“This glow is real,” another confirmed.
“Same,” a single mother confirmed.
“Get really hot,” someone else said.
The 26-year-old concluded his TikTok by stating, “A win is a win.”
Wittman told news.com.au that she noticed she looked better following the breakup, and often received compliments from friends and strangers.
“People are telling me you look better. You're glowing! Probably because you've lost some weight that was on your shoulders,” she said.
She added that she is not surprised that people have noticed she looks better, as she believes how you look has a lot to do with how you feel.
Wittman said that if you're “not happy” it means you don't look good, and that the break-up has given her a chance to rediscover her “self-identity”.
The real estate agent said since the breakup she has made a complete lifestyle change and has started investing in herself again.
“I'm going to the gym, socializing more with friends, being more social and eating better,” she said.
These days she also feels like a better mother because she is feeling content within herself, which is impacting the rest of her life.
“You can't pour from an empty cup,” he said.
Wittman's assessment that she looks more attractive now that she's single isn't entirely unfounded.
Interestingly, research shows that single women are in a much better position when it comes to their health than women in relationships.
In 2019, Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, spoke at the Hay Festival, saying that being single is a better option for women from a health perspective.
He advised, “If you're a man, you should probably get married; if you're a woman, don't worry about it.”
Dolan's advice is based on research he conducted for his happiness book, “Happy Ever After,” which found that men's health improves after marriage, while women's health is more likely to deteriorate.
Dolan said that when men marry, they typically “take fewer risks, make more money at work, and live a little longer,” he argued.
Interestingly, women do not reap the same benefits from marrying men.
He said, “On the other hand, she has to endure all this and would die sooner if she had never married.”
“The healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who have never married or have children.”
Psychologist Carly Dober said women are generally more successful when they are single.
“We know that women are generally in a better position than men to cope following a relationship breakdown, as women are more likely to engage in help-seeking behaviours, such as seeking therapy and social support from friends and loved ones, and are less likely than men to misuse substance abuse to distract themselves from the pain,” she told news.com.au.
“Incidentally, women also find more cognitive space and time to invest in themselves, which could mean indulging in activity, fun, wearing clothes they like, trying out new hairstyles that their ex-husband never wanted them to try,” he added.
“Living life more fully may mean they feel more warmth than they did when they were in a relationship that wasn't good for them.”
