Sending friends invitations to hang out can often be challenging.
The busy Christmas period hardly helps matters.
Will they RSVP? Will they cancel at the last minute?
A mother shares her personal gripe – with people who say “I’ll decide when the time comes.”
“Bloody Rude”
“This happened twice this week. I’ve invited people over for lunch after Christmas. They told me they would like to play it by ear,” he expressed his anger.
“That’s very rude.”
On a mom’s forum, she writes about how inconvenient it is, especially when time off from work at Christmas is so limited.
“I am stuck now until you take a decision and I can’t make other plans with my (limited) annual leave,” she said.
“If I’m not able to redeem the holiday day for you, that’s fine – just decline the invitation – but it’s very rude to put me in a position where I’m now left with that day on hold for you.”
She doesn’t think she should be left to wait.
“This is very bad behavior!
She later said, “I certainly see that people can be in a situation where they’re waiting to meet family.”
But there’s a simple solution: “Either say so and chase up the missing information or, if that’s not possible, decline the invitation.”
“Hoping for a better offer”
The disappointed mom’s comment section was divided.
Some people said that this is a habit they find themselves doing often.
One mother admitted, “I often ask if we can play it by ear, because my two young children are always sick.”
Some people suggested that it was not worth insisting on.
Someone bluntly said, “Pee-takers can only pee if you let them.”
“If waiting to find out is inconvenient for you, by all means tell them politely,” suggested another.
Others agreed it was rude.
One person said, “There’s no way I’d put a day down for people who might let you down at the last minute.”
Another wrote: “It just means they’re hoping for a better offer.”
The disgruntled host argued that you were sending a hidden message.
“The implication is that their time is less important than your time,” he said.
