There’s a lot that you must have read and heard about gay sex. Movies and shows have depicted it as both love-lorn and lustful, passionate and tender. Add to all of this the almost animalistic depiction in pornography. Some of these depictions are fair, the others are downright outrageous. But rarely has anyone bothered to delve into the many contradictions and convolutions of gay sex – you don’t ever see two men embracing gay sex with all its layers. Safe to say, just like heterosexual sex, its homosexual counterpart hasn’t been awarded nuance either!
Hence the many myths about gay sex which we’ll hopefully be able to bust for you today. Whether you’re someone who’s looking to explore things with another man or just another curious person hoping to get some answers, we sincerely hope to help clear out many notions around gay sex for you.
1. Anal penetration isn’t mandatory
Just like heterosexual intimacy, where vaginal intercourse isn’t always the path to sexual satisfaction, gay sex doesn’t have to include anal penetration for it to yield the desired outcome. There are options aplenty for those who don’t want or desire penetration – oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation, to name a few.
2. Foreplay is just as essential
The notion around foreplay is that it’s primarily what a woman enjoys, and because gay sex doesn’t involve the fairer sex, it’s alright to skip it and get straight to the point. However, the truth couldn’t be far from it.
It’s 2024 so debunk the myth that men, be they straight or gay, don’t care for some heavy petting. They do. Actually, they quite enjoy it.
3. There are no designated male-female roles
Don’t bring those heterosexual stereotypes to gay sex, alright?
The person who is bottoming isn’t the ‘woman’ and being a top doesn’t make one person more of a man than the other. Besides, if you’re going by this notion, you aren’t taking into consideration those gay men who like to do a bit of both or neither.
4. You don’t always enjoy it
Gay sex isn’t always pleasurable, especially for those who are being penetrated. It can be painful and/or uncomfortable, particularly when the two people are engaging in it together for the first time.
There’s also something to be said about the experience. Despite what pop culture would like you to believe, sex between two men doesn’t always hit the right spot on the first try. You may think that just because both of them orgasmed, it all went well but you’d be surprised how many men can feel dissatisfied with sex despite having climaxed.
5. It can require some preparation beforehand
It’s not uncommon for those who are into bottoming to do a thorough cleanse of their posterior before any sexual encounter. Douching, as this act is called, is meant to avoid awkward, unpleasant occurrences during anal sex, along with helping prevent STDs and generally maintain good hygiene levels, of course.
