a woman has taken reddit She expressed anger after her brother and SIL had planned to announce her pregnancy at her birthday party.
The woman, around 30, said she canceled the event when her brother asked her if they could make the announcement at the party.
Now, they are angry with her for the way she reacted and told her that she was ‘over-reacting’.
“Easy to tell them”
“This afternoon, my brother and SIL called me and told me that they are pregnant. I was so happy for him and I asked him all the usual questions,” she explained.
“Then he asked me if I wouldn’t mind telling my parents at my birthday dinner tonight. He said that my SIL is very ill, which I sympathize with and that I will not drink alcohol, so it will be easier to tell her. But if I say no, they will tell (it is about them) in some other program in a few weeks.”
She then told the pair that she would like them to hold off on the announcement.
“Enough fee to cancel”
“They were understanding,” OP wrote. “But when I said I thought they put me in a difficult position and really shouldn’t have asked in the first place, they got defensive and angry.
“What he meant was that I should feel grateful that he was thoughtful enough to ask me in the first place. My SIL yelled at me a little. The call ended badly and I was even more upset than before.
“It put me in a really bad mood and it didn’t feel good to pretend to be excited during dinner with them, so I contacted my parents to postpone the dinner. They wanted to know why, which I couldn’t tell them, and told me there would be a substantial fee to cancel. They were frustrated because I wouldn’t tell them why I was upset. I said I would call the restaurant and figure it out, which I did.
“Eh, he already asked, no harm, no foul. They accepted your decision, but when it didn’t happen you made it a big issue. Literally nothing. We always say, what’s the harm in asking, the worst they can say is no. Is saying no so hard that you let this question ruin your birthday? YTA,” one person told him.
“ESH,” someone else wrote. “Your brother and sister-in-law should not have been angry at you when you said you were disappointed by their request. But they asked you first and thought it best to postpone the announcement. Feel like you’re 12, not quite 30. It’s a meal, who cares? The birthday princess thing is for tweens.”
“NTA. BIL and SIL could have waited and not said anything to OP or the rest of the family for a day or two,” a third concluded.
