To keep and hold – a grudge for the rest of his life.
An engaged man says he feels “blindsided” after his fiancée asked him for a “hall pass” to have sex with other men before they tie the knot next month.
Taking over Reddit with puzzles On Monday, the 28-year-old admitted he was unsure whether he should call off the wedding in the wake of the bride-to-be’s indecent proposal.
“It seemed like everything was great and mutual,” the man wrote about his 29-year-old girlfriend of four years. “This stupid idea of his completely blindsided me. I could tell she had been thinking about it for a while and was waiting for the right time to bring it out.
To add insult to injury, the fiancé claims that his adulterous thoughts are a “healthy” way to approach a marriage.
“He also claimed it would help get everything out of our system,” the person added. “In the four years we’ve been together, I’ve never thought about being with anyone else, but it hurts to know that she doesn’t feel the same way.”
He further admitted, “I’m not sure if she has a guy in mind or if she just wants a one-night stand.”
After expressing her disdain, the bride-to-be tried to withdraw the idea. However, the damage was already done because he ignored her.
Now surrounded by feelings of “betrayal”, the engaged person is not convinced that their relationship is in bad shape.
“Apart from the emotional pain, we have been living together for two years. “We have a whole wedding planned where people will come for us,” he wrote.
“I would like to try to work on it, and maybe I’m overreacting. My friends think I should cut my losses and move on.
They sought the views of neutral parties online and the consensus was to stay out while possible.
One commented, “Your friends are right, cancel the wedding, tell everyone why, cut your losses and move on.” “Breakups and canceling marriages are no fun, divorce and sharing child custody are much worse.”
Another said, “Free passes are like potato chips you can never eat even one of.” “Ending the relationship before marriage may be inconvenient but it will be much better than getting divorced in the future.”
“Get it over with, and go away. He destroyed all trust in the relationship. No trust, no relationship,” advised a third.
