A couples therapist explains how your partner's phone activity could signal that you need to end the relationship.
Jonathan Van Wieghen is an online family therapist and social media influencer who claims he can help people transform their relationships “from conflict to connection” if they use his tips and programs.
recently Viral Instagram ReelsA married father of two has revealed nine major phone habits that have the potential to destroy a marriage.
The biggest danger, according to van Wieghen, is not sharing your passwords with your partner.
The next “frustrating” behaviour they warned about includes when partners “hide their phone” and “keep it to themselves” [their] Put the phone face down.”
Other habits on the list include if your partner turns their body or phone away from you when talking on the phone, if your spouse closes apps or locks the device when you approach, if they recently changed their password, if they get annoyed or upset about you touching their phone, if they get angry or defensive when asked why privacy is important, and if they are always protective of their device.
The relationship therapist, who has over 162,000 followers on Instagram, claimed his wife agrees that these nine behaviours are harmful and they would never allow such actions to happen in their marriage.
“I'm not saying you should follow our example — so do the same. But be reassured knowing that at least one other couple in the world is not enduring these frustrating red flags,” van Wieghen wrote.
His post received mixed reviews in the comments section.
One person wrote, “These are healthy relationship behaviors. People who think this is control probably don't have healthy boundaries/relationships.”
Others say that some of the things they listed invade their partner's privacy and aren't needed.
One user suggested, “Why don't we normalize secure attachment styles that focus on trust and allow for privacy without secrecy.”
“I have a phone addiction and putting it face down has drastically reduced how often I go on my phone. It's a behavior change,” another person responded in the comments section.
Van Wieghen's page is filled with helping couples rebuild their relationships, so if phone problems have led to bigger distrust in a partnership, in a separate video, he encouraged users to “approach trust issues with optimism and pragmatism.”
