This relationship is in danger.
there are lots of “icks” – or unattractive qualities – that can alienate a partner, but one that has particularly become a point of contention is cooking.
As some celebrities reveal they rarely cook dinner for their families – from Kim Kardashian To britney mahomes – A Redditor shared his culinary dilemma online after admitting that his 31-year-old wife is so useless in the kitchen, he wonders if she’s doing it on purpose.
“Overall, things are great, but one thing that is bothering me is that my wife doesn’t know how to cook at all,” the 28-year-old man wrote. The popular Reddit forum, “Am I an A-hole?”
“I’ve always been a foodie, initially I had no problem with it because I love cooking.”
However, he said that now it has become a burden. He is forced to prepare meals after “a long day at work” while his wife rests at home. Despite all efforts to teach her to cook, “she’s very bad at it,” he said.
According to the original poster, she has tried cutting strawberries with the stems on, and “actually prepared mac and cheese like the box stuff.” He admitted in the comments that he didn’t know she couldn’t cook before the wedding and “couldn’t tell if she was doing it on purpose,” calling it a “deal breaker.”
He added, “She refuses to cook and claims there is nothing wrong with not being able to cook.” “This has been an ongoing issue between us.”
Matters came to a head when his mother came over for dinner and offered him help with meal preparation, and gave a knife to cut fruit to the wife who “couldn’t figure out how to hold it properly.” “
“My mother noticed that she was unable to cut the fruit and then burst into tears, ‘It’s really pathetic that you don’t even know how to cut a piece of fruit at this age,'” the man wrote , the mother then walked away, explaining that his wife was angry that he “didn’t defend her” and “embarrassed her.”
“She’s literally older than me and can’t even hold a knife very well,” he said, adding that his wife now thinks he’s “a huge idiot.” “She told me that’s not the issue and that I need to defend her and that it’s not her fault she’s bad at cooking.”
While some Reddit users believed she should have at least defended him against his mother’s comments, most agreed that the wife should have been able to prepare basic meals — mac and cheese, grilled cheese, pasta — Must have and know how to cut produce.
“To feed themselves, every adult should know basic cooking skills, like how to safely use a knife to cut fruit,” one person wrote. “To be honest, one way or another it was getting to him.”
“Your wife should at least know how to cut fruits and some basic dishes. She seems lazy by not trying or asking how to go about things if she doesn’t really know how,” another person said.
Someone else wrote, “It’s not hard to boil pasta, reheat sauces, meatballs, etc. It’s not hard to make lots of simple recipes with minimal instructions.” “Being able to feed herself after microwave dinners and fast food is an important life skill that she refuses to even try to manage.”
The original creator said he believes “this is weaponized incompetence” and that he plans to go to marriage counseling and cooking classes with his wife.
“If things don’t change I’ll be out,” he said. “I’ll make it absolutely clear.”
Although it sounds dramatic, Previous Harvard Business School surveys Turns out that household chores can be deal breakers for couples. According to the study, 25% of participants said they filed for divorce because of “disagreements about household chores”, which ranked third among reasons for seeking divorce.
And at least one expert responded to the viral complaint — giving the hungry husband the green light to do what’s best for him.
“Cooking is a life skill, and if your partner refuses to learn, it’s not your job to teach them, and it’s okay to leave a relationship you don’t want to be in,” says Kat Hoggard Wagle, a relationship expert. told Delicious,
“At the end of the day he’s supposed to be your partner, and that means teamwork.”
